The 5 Rules of Happiness

- By Burt Goldman

You know when you're happy, and certainly no one has to tell you when you're sad. But what is it that makes a person happy?

It is important to realize that what makes you happy might depress another person. There are people, because of guilt, a feeling they do not deserve what they have, or a feeling they will lose what they have that makes them unhappy when they should be happy.

Possessions are a poor measure of happiness. Possessions are subjective and relative to the individual and the individual's viewpoint. Instead, we will use a philosophy as an example.

This philosophy is about enjoying things you like, avoiding or changing things you do not like, and accepting what you cannot avoid or change by the skillful use of your viewpoint. The use of this philosophy, as embodied in the five rules, will allow you to test many problem areas in your life and find solutions. With this philosophy, you will be well on your way on your pursuit of happiness.

Rule Number One: If You Like a Thing, Enjoy It.

Now that seems outrageously simple. At first you might say, "That's ridiculous, of course if I like something I'm going to enjoy it." But when you stop to think about it you'll probably agree that there are many things in life that we like but don't enjoy. The reasons we don't enjoy things we like are (a) guilt, and (b) fear. You will not enjoy something you like if you feel guilty after having done the thing, or if you are fearful of the consequences of doing it.

Rule Number Two: If You Don't Like a Thing, Avoid It.

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Managing Anger

Up until several years ago, I was a champion 'angry person', in that just about everything in my life made me angry. If someone was unkind, or thoughtless, or selfish, or anything I didn't like, I got angry. And not just upset, but all-out, smoke rolling out of my ears, ANGRY!

But the principles that I was learning led me to realize that every time I got angry, whether I expressed it or not, I was directing Power to create future experiences that would mimic or resonate with that anger. I knew that I had a problem to deal with.

I understand where the philosophy of 'living with your anger' comes from, as well as the philosophy of express it to get rid of it. But at least in my case, everything I expressed got easier to express, and it just grew and grew. I had to eliminate it completely.

How to Have a Good Day, Everyday

How do you guarantee that your waking moments, your days, are successful, joyful, effortless, and deliver the results of your desires?

There is a way to accomplish this. It is a simple way but it requires a few steps that may be very different from your current habits. However, with willingness to practice every one of these steps, you will soon replace your old habits with this new way. The following steps are adopted from A Course in Miracles.

Step 1: The Day You Wish To Have

The first thing to realize is that you are always making decisions, that decisions are continuous. You are not aware of many of the ones you make, but by practicing awareness of the present moment, you will begin to become aware of many more of the thoughts and decisions you previously made unconsciously.

The first thing to do, when you wake up every day, is to ask yourself "What kind of day would I like to have today?" Feel your desire for such a day. Then remember that whatever you ask for, you always receive by universal law. The point of the remaining steps that follow this one is to fine-tune that asking and uncover the "sabotaging" asking that has been going on behind the scene.

To recap:

1. Think about the kind of day that you wish to have.